Why you never finish projects (ASD + ADHD, AuDHD)
- Nov 21
- 2 min read
You start a project enthusiastically. Your ADHD side is focused, interested, full of energy.
Halfway through, it gets boring. Your ADHD side wants to move on to something new.
But your ASD side sees that it's not perfect yet. You keep improving, refining, perfecting.
The project never gets finished...
The completion paradox
With ASD + ADHD, you have two reasons why projects don't get finished:
ADHD reason:
Loss of interest halfway through
New projects are more interesting
"Almost done" feels like "done enough"
Jumping to the next thing
ASD reason:
It's not perfect yet
There are still details to improve
"Good enough" doesn't exist
Keep perfecting without stopping
The result?
A house full of half-finished projects. Frustration. Guilt. The feeling that you're failing.
But you're not failing
You simply have two sides that each have a different reason for not finishing. And there are strategies for that.
The three phases of a project
Phase 1: Start (0-30%)
ADHD leads: enthusiasm, creativity, speed
Phase 2: Middle (30-80%)
Both work together: focus + perseverance
Phase 3: Completion (80-100%)
This is where it goes wrong:
ADHD wants to stop (it's become boring)
ASD wants to perfect (not good enough yet)
The solution? Consciously switch leadership
What if in phase 3 you consciously let your ADHD side lead? "We're finishing it. Not perfect, but done. And then we move on to something new."
But what is "good enough"?
That's the question that changes everything. And the answer is different for every project.
In "Maya and the double dance," you'll discover:
How to determine "good enough" criteria in advance
When your ASD side should lead and when ADHD
How to finish projects without perfection paralysis
What to do with the guilt about unfinished things
It's not about perfection
It's about done. About completing. About the satisfaction of "done" instead of the frustration of "almost."
Next blog: The emotional dance: why your emotions are sometimes so overwhelming.
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